Dr. Alex Spinoso
January 23, 2026

The Hidden Cost of Anger in High-Level Performance

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There’s been a lot written about Tom Brady. But one story I read recently really stuck with me.

Opposing defenses used to work hard to get in his head. If he threw an incomplete pass or got sacked, they’d crowd him, mock him, talk trash, try to piss him off. And Brady famously didn’t talk back.

Not because he was soft.
Because he was smart.

Brady understood something most people don’t: once you get riled up, your anger starts making decisions for you. Your judgment slips. Your timing gets off. You stop being precise. And at that level, that’s death.

Is it any surprise he’s known as one of the calmest, most surgical, clutch players of all time? Arguably the greatest ever. The guy was a machine.

He reminds me of Iceman. Cool. Methodical. Unemotional. Not reactive. Tom Brady is basically the Iceman of the NFL.

That got me thinking.

Anytime you’re trying to do something great in life or business, there will be people chirping. Critics. The peanut gallery. People questioning you, mocking you, pushing your buttons. Sometimes on purpose. Sometimes just because they’re careless or stupid.

And in those moments, you can justify getting angry. You can say they deserve it. You can say you’ve already explained this a thousand times. You can unload.

Or you can stay calm.

You can diagnose the situation without emotion.
You can be surgical.
You can stay solution-oriented.
And you can win.

Anger feels powerful, but it makes you sloppy.
Calm feels boring, but it makes you deadly.

That’s a choice you get to make every time.

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